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Grief Matters! Jill Cody, M.A. Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor Certified Funeral Celebrant Most bereaved persons experience a degree of guilt. Bereavement creates a very vulnerable emotional state. We all have said words we regret; no matter how much we love someone. These are the words we replay over and over in our minds until they become all that we remember about the person we have lost. We start taking on responsibility and blame even where none exists. Any slights are blown out of proportion. We feel remorse about lost opportunities and things we neglected to do. Recognizing the existence of your guilt feelings is the first step to healing. Ignoring or suppressing the guilt only intensifies it. Write a letter to the person you lost, telling him (or her) all your feelings of love, caring, remorse for hurts, real or imagined. Include any resentments that you have built up and ask for forgiveness. In this process, you will forgive yourself, and relieve the guilt. It is well worth the effort. Ask yourself about the lessons you can take from this experience to apply to the rest of your life. Recognize that sometimes you can’t control everything that happens. Please email your questions to © Jill Cody 2019 Address your questions to: Jill Cody, M.A., L.C.P.C at: 301-898-7177 Sponssoreed by:

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