Doug Fields

Why does someone lose his temper over something that seems minor?

Why does that same person immediately react to save a drowning child?

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Also like the term "defensive aggression." I have never heard that before. I have never started a physical fight, always try to finish them though, until I can't move anymore. Pain is also a trigger. I have never hit a lover before but I had one girlfriend in my youth who threw punches. With my defensive aggression, I have no idea how I did not hit her and end up in jail. I know I had to dump her before I hurt her.


Maybe I will go. As someone with rage, it is a blessing and a curse. I am alive today because of my rage. That split second reaction, that instant change in mood for chill to kill has saved my life more than once. On the others side of it, it has also caused issues in interpersonal relationships. I can control it in the real world but those close to me know that it is always bubbling under the surface. I also grew up with ADHD which they say can be cause as well.

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