Brenda Everett, 50, of Rocky Ridge, tells the story of meeting her husband, Larry, after a very unfortunate first marriage.
When I met my now-husband, Larry, I was divorced and definitely not looking for anyone. I was married for 16 years before that, and it was just not a good marriage. He drank a lot. Very controlling. It was not a happy time for me.
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We finally divorced in 2006. He cheated on me with my best friend. I found them in my house. I went to the grocery store after I got home from work, and when I came home, there they were. On my couch. I was devastated. It was my best friend and my husband, you know? But, honestly, as the years have gone by, I’ve realized it was the best thing that ever happened to me. That’s what it took for me to say, ‘You know what? I’m not going to do this anymore.’
Flash-forward to 2009. Again, I was not looking for anyone. I had my daughter, who was around 12 at the time. She was going through the middle school, teenager thing, and I had a lot going on with both her and myself. It took me a really long time to be okay with myself again. And I wanted to have me right before I even thought about dating somebody. Or bringing somebody around my daughter. That’s not something that I take lightly. So, I was working, I was spending my time with her, and I was just doing my own thing. I was happy doing that for a while.
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I want to say it was July 4 when I saw Larry for the first time. I work as the manager at a big distribution warehouse in Frederick, and we were really busy that day. We ship a lot of things out for customers all over the U.S. and Canada. But we also have some local businesses that order stuff and come pick it up. That day, I had some customers coming in to pick up some orders. Normally, that’s not something I handle. But my usual shipper was really busy that afternoon, so I said, ‘You know what? Go ahead and finish what you’re doing. I’ll run it up for you.’
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I took the order to the lobby and when I walked up there, Larry was sitting on the couch, waiting for his order. I looked at him and I was like, ‘Oh my God.’ Something just struck me. It was the weirdest feeling ever. It was crazy. I’m telling you, it was crazy. I was checking him out as he signed for his order. And when he left, I went over to Jeff, the guy in the sales department who dealt with his company. I was like, ‘Jeff, where have you been hiding this one?’ And he’s like, ‘Who, Larry? Why, are you interested?’ And I’m like, ‘Yeah, actually, I am. Give him my number and tell him to give me a call sometime.’
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It was not like me at all. I had never done anything like that before. But I’m telling you, the feeling I got when I saw him, it was unexplainable. Right after I left the office, Jeff called Larry and he was like, ‘Hey, Larry, what do you think of the girl who brought your parts up?’ I think Larry said something like, ‘She was pretty hot.’ So, he took my number, and I think it was the next night when he called me. And we just talked and talked and talked and talked. He had two kids from a previous marriage, and I had my daughter.
We decided we were going to meet the following evening. We met at the town park in Thurmont and walked around for hours, just talking. About everything. The conversation was so easy and there were no awkward moments. It was just there. So, we started seeing each other on a regular basis when we didn’t have our kids. We’re both really funny about introducing people to our kids. I’m not cool with bringing people in and out of my daughter’s life. That’s just not who I am.
Luckily, he felt the same way. I think we dated for about four months before we introduced each other to our kids. And we’ve been together ever since. October was five years that we’ve been married, and we have a daughter together. She just turned eight in November.
Tori, 30, is a Frederick resident who identifies as asexual and queer. They agreed to share their thoughts on love and dating. We agreed to withhold their last name to preserve their privacy.
And I’m going to tell you what: I am the luckiest person ever. I am. He is amazing. He is the best man. It’s all about his family. You know, I sometimes have to stop and pinch myself and think, ‘Is this real?’ Because I wasn’t ever used to being treated the way that he treats me. His favorite expression is always, ‘You come first.’ If he walks by me, he’ll lay his hand on my arm or my shoulder. Even five years later, he still does that. He’s respectful and lets me know where he is and what he’s doing. It took me a long time to be able to trust that he was that real. Because the relationship I had before, I never knew where he was. Larry is just so different.
He’s a great dad. He loves his children. He truly and honestly loves me. We are not rich by any means, but we bust our asses every day to take care of our family. And he’s right there, chugging along with me. I know it probably sounds corny, but he’s the best thing besides my two children that ever happened to me. It was love at first sight, absolutely. And I’m very thankful every single day.