The best thing that could have happened, happened.

This is hard to say as a proud Democrat, but no, I’m not talking about the election of Joe Biden as 46th president of the United States. I’m referring to the election of a centrist Democratic president along with Republicans having a good shot of hanging onto a thin majority in the Senate and adding a few more seats in the House. This configuration screams, almost demands, governing from the center and looking for compromise. I believe Mr. Biden has a golden opportunity to do just that. I believe that is where his heart is, and I believe that is where America’s heart really is.

It won’t be easy. There are loud and charismatic voices coming from his left who are just spoiling for a fight and wishing for payback. The same goes for the far right. Some on both sides want to win at all costs. It’s their way or the highway. I hope and pray he resists both. I believe most Americans are yearning for government to work together, to find common ground and embrace compromise. These activities should be seen as a badge of honor, not a shortcoming. Mr. Biden is using those words already, and that is a good sign. We should reward politicians who take this stance and marginalize the fringes on both sides who are harming America with their recalcitrance.

Along with the divisive rhetoric, I believe a main reason we have felt so out of sorts the past four years is that Mr. Trump attempted to govern from the hard right, ignoring the 50/50 split in our country. Smart politicians would have held out an olive branch to the other side, and most new presidents do. We got none of that from Mr. Trump. He did not receive a mandate to govern this way, but he gleefully went ahead anyway, enabled by Congressional Republicans who could have reigned him in, and cheered on by Fox News and his adoring fans, insulting and demonizing his opponents along the way, and by proxy, more than half of America. He has now paid the price for that.

We should never forget that our government was designed by the framers to move ahead slowly, not in fits and starts like we have over the past four years. We’re supposed to compromise. I’m asking this new Democratic administration to take a bullet for the good of the country. Don’t think about payback. Think about progress. Mr. Biden is right—we are not enemies. Let’s accept that we all love this country and try to move ahead.

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nancypace

Years ago, I accepted a doctoral fellowship at UT Austin, married a hot new hubby with a Jaguar E-Type convertible and moved into his luxury apartment. My grandmother warned me sternly: “Pride goeth before a fall.” Not everyone had what I had. I should feel grateful.

I felt quietly hurt and confused. Hadn’t I worked hard? Carried 18 hours every semester? Paid college expenses with summer work? Hadn’t I done what was expected? Weren’t my current blessings my just desserts by dint of hard work and virtuous character? Wasn’t I anticipating many more years of due diligence? Hadn’t I made my own opportunities? Earned my successes?

Gram remembered raising five children alone. She feared I would think I was somehow “better than” others less fortunate and privileged who probably would never achieve such success no matter how hard they tried. Gram didn’t want me to have — dare I speak the words? — “an entitlement mentality.”

Years later, a struggling single mom myself, I participated in a church gratitude exercise. Drawing the words, “my car” from a basket, I couldn’t think of a single reason to be grateful for my smoky old junk heap. My minister asked me gently, “And what if you didn’t have that car?”

Indeed. What if I hadn’t been gifted with so many lucky accidents of birth, with so many portents of good fortune before even arriving at life’s starting line?

What if I weren’t born of sound mind and body? If my newborn skin color, ethnicity, religion, proportions or features weren’t those my culture admired? What if my nation wasn’t the safest, richest, freest in the world? What if my parents weren’t part of the world’s top 1 percent (in today’s U.S. dollars, those making over $33,000 per year, per individual, after taxes)?

What if my parents hadn’t passed on to me their own special sets of hard-won and inherited strengths — unique to every parent — those unforgettable, invaluable, individual and family traits that make all the difference? What if I didn’t grow up in leafy communities with helpful neighbors, good schools, safe streets?

What if our family dialect wasn’t enviably academic English? What if my cradle wasn’t instantly surrounded by spiritual, aesthetic, literary, philosophical and social refinements? What if, by my third birthday, my mother couldn’t write appreciatively in my “Baby Book” all about my budding musical, artistic and athletic talents, my trusting, friendly temperament, my gentle, funny, mercurial personality? What if the whole world didn’t eagerly reach down to give a hand up to this lucky little person already so bounteously endowed by the gods?

Sure, we had our troubles. Big troubles. All families do. I’m grateful for what I learned in meeting those challenges and for the obstacles cleared by others before us, to our benefit. I’m thankful I had more good luck than bad. I’m also (sort of) grateful for the multitudinous unintended mistakes I made through ignorance and hubris. I’m learning from them too.

And I’m grateful to Gram for grounding my awareness of the deficits and barriers that those born without my blessings must overcome to achieve mere survival and sufficiency, much less success, fulfillment and prosperity.

JerryR

Nancy, very well put. I love it. That's how I was taught and my wife and I are trying to impart that to our son. Everything we have is fleeting, what's here today can be gone tomorrow, in a second. Be humble, enjoy what you have, and help everyone we can.

NewMarketParent

@JerryR

The fact that her story sailed right over your head is astonishingly tone-deaf.

JerryR

NMP/Lady/Dude - not sure what you are - I wish i knew what the h_ll you are talking about. Each of us can have their own interpretation. Please, for your own sake, go get a life!!

NewMarketParent

@nancypace

Thank you for your story of appreciating and understanding your own privilege. Also thank you for doing it in such a way as to not to diminish yours or other's struggles. Thank you for your grace.

threecents

Good story about privilege, but what does it have to do with the column?

MRS M

three, maybe Nancy believes she is auditioning to be a new FNP columnist. Would be entirely fine if she replaces DES or that old guy from Carroll County...................Otherwise....?

Blueline

The Jaguar XK-E sure looked nice, but it was plagued with electrical & mechanical problems which made it a troublesome car to own. It also sounds like the hubby was a foul ball. Choices, choices, choices. However, It sounds like you capably ended up overcoming these events, so kudos to you.

eak1969123

Words have consequences. Every day for four years Trump and his 75M supporters have been called vile names; homophobic, racist, white supremacist, nazi sympathizers, mysogynist, xenophobic, and others. Then a fraudulent impeachment based on lies by political opponents and a politicized FBI leadership. And now an election that at best will will be remembered for suspected systemic vote fraud. Even in this letter's appeal for reconciliation the name calling continues. Today's situation is somewhat analogous to spousal abuse. At some point the abused comes to understand that the abuse will continue as long as the abuser does not get their way and insincere pleas for reconciliation when they do get their way and will sever the relationship. I think today there are about 75M people with the perspective.

RHOMSalem

I think you are correct. I've been a democrat my entire life and I am ashamed of how "intellectuals" talk down to half of America. The phrase "basket of deplorables" cost her an election, but it does no appear that far left progressives have learned anything from that.

PurplePickles aka L&M

@RHOMSalem

Cool name.,,yeah the left learned not to waste their time on the deplorable’s, instead they went after the reasonable thinking critical thinkers. And it won them the election so..they talked to intellectuals, they ones that got the point!

NewMarketParent

Basket of deplorables is an exactly correct and you don't have to sock puppet as a Democrat in order to try to garner sympathy. Your side doesn't do anything but feel sorry for yourselves.

Greg F

Most don’t talk down but the absolute moron-speak from trump and his extremist followers deserves to be called out for the falsehoods and blatant misinformation and propaganda BS it was....and still is. Sorry you don’t like intellectuals, but they sure as sh** better than listening to the sheer stupidity of the far right conservatives.

NewMarketParent

@Greg F

You seem like a far better person than I am. I have lost patience with the notion of there somehow needing to be a need to not criticize the demonstrably stupid. If someone goes out their way to lie, be racist, spread misinformation or attempt to garner harm to my fellow countrymen they deserve to get brought out to the woodshed in public.

threecents

Sorry RHOM, but to paraphrase Ms. Gump, Deplorable is as deplorable does.

phydeaux994

You forgot the “unEducated” that Trump loves, for good reason RHOMSalem. If you can’t see through this criminal Charlatan there is something seriously wrong with your “judgement” faculties. And Hillary hit the nail on the head, in hindsight, don’cha think?

NewMarketParent

@eak1969123

Words DO have consequences. What you have never taken the time to understand is that maybe you are or have the traits of all of those things you have been called. If you want to put babies in cages, maybe, just maybe you are the baddie. You want to lie to get political advantage? Then you are a liar. You and your side leaned full in on fascism. Don't be mad. Wear your scarlet letter with pride and as you donate your last dollar to a huckster conman and he leaves you out in the cold at a rally you can have died penniless to own the libs.

awteam2000

Trump has insulted everyone, starting with his first announcement to run for office. You haven’t forgotten? Have you?

With 96% National Vote Reporting:

Biden 77,400,101 votes - Trump 72,266,137 votes

Note: Biden won Frederick County, 53% to 44% versus Trump in 2016 winning Frederick County, 47% to 45%.

NewMarketParent

@awteam2000

I'm sorry I didn't hear you. Did you say MANDATE?

awteam2000

Words do have consequences. Every day for four years Trump and his 72M supporters have been deplorable; homophobic, racist, white supremacist, nazi sympathizers, mysogynist, xenophobic, lies, false claims and other un-American behavior. Trump conspired with Russians, was impeached for trying to get dirt on Biden’s son and is now facing his comeuppance. Even in this thread there’s excusers for his ineptness. Today's situation is somewhat like a abused spouse being liberated. He lost by more then 5 million votes and 79 electorates!

Trump now hides in the White House waiting for his eviction.

JerryR

Mr. Bennett, i do like your LTE, but.....Aye Carrumba!! I just don't think the lefties get it, plain and simple. All of a sudden we're all supposed to sing Kumbaya now that the media announced Biden won the election. Folks, the division of our country started before Trump was elected and went into hyper-mode after he won in 2016. He did try to reach across the aisle to the left and was shot down every time by Nancy and Chuck and all the other coo-coo's like Nadler and Schiff. How many times did Nancy say he was an illegitimate President? How many times was he attacked by Chuck and his ilk, and then that sham of an impeachment which was stupid and a huge waste of time and money? If you or anyone for that matter was attacked and ridiculed the way President Trump was, you'd get very defensive too, no denying it. Cause and effect people, cause and effect. The hypocrisy is unbelievable. Like I've said previously, I don't always agree with the President, but he did try a few times to reach across the aisle to no avail because for some stupid reason, the lefties have been seething since he won because they saw their professional politician way of life changing. Trump got voted in people, because the American populace are sick and tired of professional politicians, full stop!!

olefool

Yadda yadda yada.... dumbest irrelevant comment ever..... Jerry.. you wanna see the problem.. look in a mirror at the jackarse looking back.... then go tell the liar in chief to hit the road.... HE LOST....

JerryR

Put down the Koll Aide Big Guy and please, use some common sense. Dumb is as dumb does. Go figure it out.

NewMarketParent

@JerryR

Says the guy who can't figure it out.

phydeaux994

The Democratic House and Senate voted for Trump Legislation more than 30% of the time in the first 2 years, including the Prison Reform Act Legislation that Jerrod led and which Don takes all the credit for. The past 2 years, the “Grim Reaper” Moscow Mitch McConnell shut down the passage of all Legislation. McConnell and Boehner did not allow the support of ANY Obama Legislation for all 8 years of his Administration, stating that their top priority was to drive him out of office. Remember that JerryR??

NewMarketParent

@JerryR

Nobody cares how you feel about anything. You can either hop on the American Express or you can get dragged along behind it. Either way, we are all moving forward. You had your last hurrah. I hope it was worth it and that stupid hat you got.

This idea of him trying to work with the other side is completely disingenuous and a downright lie. Once he realized that his side held all of the power, he decided to ignore half the larger half of the country that didn't vote for him to the tune of letting Democratically-lead states compete against each other for PPE during a pandemic. If you think that is even remotely forgivable you are kidding yourself. So, sit in the corner and sip your haterade and pickle juice. I hope the sour flavor makes you happy.

JerryR

Wow, you two need some serious psychiatric help. Go now... and find it.

NewMarketParent

@JerryR

Thank you for your absolutely sound psychiatric advice from a place of denial. I appreciate it internet stranger.

PurplePickles aka L&M

@NMP

It gets exhausting constantly crushing orange crayons, and I’m afraid the crayons are a tad toxic? But you saw what happened when we tried to learn Eric past the number of teeth in his head? It didn’t work out so well, but orange crayons are all Jerry will eat, do you think we should hire a crayon crusher? I think it’s going to be a very full time long term job, what do you think we should pay?

phydeaux994

Speaking of Psychiatrists JerryR, have you looked up “Malignant Narcissist w/sadistic tendencies”? a.k.a. Loves himself alone and Loves to hurt others. That’s your guy!!! Peace.✌️

awteam2000

JerryR, The only time Trump Made efforts to reached across the aisle was for his own personal benefit. You don’t remember Pelosi scolding him in the Oval Office? He never tried to unite the country but only use division as a weapon. He now is the 9th presidency out of 45, from 1789 to 2020 not to serve a second term and by the largest margin since F. Roosevelt defeated Hoover in 1932. That’s pretty decisive. Right? Not to rub it in but he lost by 5 million votes and growing. 🤷‍♂️

nancypace

Wikipedia: "The top 20% of Americans owned 86% of the country's wealth and the bottom 80% of the population owned 14%. In 2011, financial inequality was greater than inequality in total wealth, with the top 1% of the population owning 43%, the next 19% of Americans owning 50%, and the bottom 80% owning 7%." Good (i.e., just) governance governs from the broad center of Americans, which deserves a fair and equitable (if not equal) distribution of American wealth. In today's fast-moving era of technological change, good governance is urgent governance that works together to find the common ground and compromises necessary to belatedly give equitable opportunities to all Americans. Statistics like the above are hard to assemble--thank you Wikipedia, Thomas Picketty, and so many more selfless statistics-gathering national and global economists. Let us no longer be deceived: urgent, patriotic selflessness--not our typically self-serving slow fits and starts toward tiny bites of progress--is the urgent order of today, if our shared, beloved American dream of peace, freedom and democracy is not only to survive, but thrive.

Blueline

The U.S. provides equal opportunity, not equal outcomes. There are a few factors that decide where you end up. Poor personal choices in life, & a lack of common sense almost guarantee you'll end up at the bottom. If your life's goal is to work 30 hours in McDonalds for your entire life, there is something wrong with the equation. I don't feel wealthy, but I don't feel poor either - somewhere in between. Not every choice I made in life was a wise one, but I learned from mistakes & moved on. Also, my focus was never on what someone else had, I was more concerned with my lot in life. In high school & college, I worked at an exclusive Country Club - all millionaires. I never said these guys owed me, I looked at how they got to where they were, and it served me fairly well.

PurplePickles aka L&M

@Blueline

The U.S. provides equal opportunity..NO it doesn't. You haven't been living in the US if you think that. Didn't we have this discussion a few days ago when we were talking about our 1st female vice president? There are two things you just revealed about yourself when you said "The U.S. provides equal opportunity"...do you know what those two things are?

JerryR

Purple, that's BS. Yes, I do. Everyone, in this day and age, has the same chance to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. It doesn't matter your economic back ground - as Blueline states, it's your upbringing and the choices you make that determine your fate/lot in life. I'm 58 and grew up here in Frederick since I was 12. I went to school with people from all socio-economic backgrounds. Those that came from families that made sure their children understood the difference between right and wrong and the choices they make can determine their life, are actually doing well in life. Those that didn't, well, you get the picture. I see many of them at our HS reunion and it's awesome to see that everyone is doing well primarily based on those principle's. I'm a manager at a large global company and give everyone i meet that works hard and proves themselves, an opportunity to thrive - I don't care what their background, race, creed, religion, or anything like that, period. You make it on your own merits. No one in this world is owed anything, you need to work to get it. So, obviously don't know your background or where you come from, but as usual, you want everyone to get something for nothing. Sorry, but life doesn't work that way. I'll repeat, the first law of economics is that there is no such thing as a free lunch, someone has to pay. I always say it's easy to be liberal if you're rich or entitled. Figure it out.

JerryR

Watch Kamala's video on Equity vs Equality. Pure socialistic, Marxist crap. Apply yourself, work hard, get an education, make good choices and take advantage of your opportunities (the first four will get you there). Done. Anything to the contrary is BS!

PurplePickles aka L&M

@Jerry R

I wasn’t talking to you, I am awaiting bluelines response? Also I can’t understand you when you rant? Maybe rant less when you post?

NewMarketParent

@JerryR

That is one of your primary problems is that you obviously don't understand economics either. Rights as well as economics is not a slice of pie and your understanding of it shows that you understand neither. We will drag you into the next century kicking and screaming.

RHOMSalem

Equal opportunity does not exist. It is a fallacy. This is not a political statement. In exists in all walks of life and is represented by both political parties.

JerryR

It does, unfortunately you've been fed a bunch of crap to the contrary. And you're right it's not political in any way!

NewMarketParent

Equal opportunity is a pipe dream. You want to go spewing that crap to the people who have been denied the ability to vote or tried to buy houses in redlined districts? Please go learn some history before you come out trying to deny it.

NewMarketParent

@JerryR

Please spew your Faux Noise somewhere else and pick up a book sometime. Please stop trying to deny the experience of others as it just makes you seem like a kook.

phydeaux994

JerryR, do you and your fellow commenters deny that Black People ascended from slavery have EVER had equal education and opportunity to blend into mainstream (White) society? I was a Junior in High School in 1956 when I met the first Black people in my life that I would get to know and become friends with. That was the first year in Montgomery County history that Black kids could attend White Schools. 1956!! A mere 64 years ago. And have Black kids and Black families EVER had the opportunity to be adopted into mainstream (White) society since then, with blatant discrimination in housing and employment and travel and access to the same venues as Whites? I worked in a Drug Store in High School where Blacks couldn’t sit at the Fountain to eat the food they purchased there. Beaches on the Bay were segregated, hotels and motels were segregated, clubs and entertainment venues were segregated and still are de facto. Towns in Frederick County are still effectively segregated. That’s not EQUAL OPPORTUNITY!!! And it’s not just Black people now, it’s most people of color, Brown and Muslim many foreign Nationalities face discrimination.

NewMarketParent

@Blueline

Except that it doesn't provide equal opportunity. Please go learn the real history of our country before you go off spouting the Faux News party line. Literally no one has ever asked for equal outcomes except for those who try to falsely re-frame the request for equal opportunity as a request for equal outcome. Go construct that strawman somewhere else so that you can have fun beating on it.

Blueline

NMP - you are correct, I mis-phrased it. Replace the word "provides" with "offers." It is up to the individual to utilize the opportunities. The freedoms in this country allow the individual to make poor & destructive choices, even though they may clearly not be in their best interests. That's just how the system works.

NewMarketParent

@Blueline

Except it doesn't work like that for a lot of people and denying their story is gaslighting them.

Let me say it again. Literally noone is asking for equal outcomes. All POCs have asked is to be treated equally and fairly and that plea time and again falls on deaf ears.

For example, my grandparents had to buy the property that they raised my Mom on from a broker at a premium because the owner wouldn't sell it to a black man. That is wealth that was stolen from my family due to racism. That is not an equal opportunity.

gb4baseball

Nice LTE, Mr.Bennet. We MUST work together to accomplish anything no matter what our difference. I think Joe Biden is well suited for this task given his good bipartisan working relationship during his time in the Senate and as VP. It's going to be up to Republicans in Congress to be willing to do the same.

DickD

Meanwhile, Donald Trump fired his Defense Secretary and refuses to allow Biden to receive security briefings. How can you be a centrist as 70% of the Republicans support a Sociopath?

micky

Republicans should take a page from the D playbook. Treat the new administration the same as the old administration was treated. R's are expected to suck it up and heal, I don't think so !!

elmerchismo1

Micky: As I recall, your party's shout-out to the Dems 4 years ago was "You lost. Get over it." Take your own advice.

NewMarketParent

@elmerchismo1

The "F" your feelings crowd is all up in their feelings.

RHOMSalem

[thumbup]

pdl603

Hey elmrfud, that was Obama’s line.

gary4books

Excellent.

jsklinelga

Mr. Bennett,

You made some good points. Hopefully the Senate races in Georgia will yield a Republican majority and we will have a government with checks and balances.

I have been an ardent Trump supporter but when I heard him speak on election might my only thoughts were...yikes. Not four more years of this

jsklinelga

Now the natural follow-up. President Trump was a warrior. He exposed many ills and fought valiantly against a brutal onslaught of negativity. The revolution he fought for is very much alive. And America moves forward.

Greg F

Wow...you are as deluded as pumpkin-head is and living in some massive state of denial. Your toddler lost. Statistically he has zero chance even if recalls are done. He needs to prep now and if things turn due to any, the process can stop, but his kid at the checkout line tantrum and sabotage of agencies as he exits (rather still is so deluded he thinks he clearly won in a landslide) has got to be stopped by his own party leaders now.

NewMarketParent

@Greg F

And now we will watch undoubtedly as the people who expressed their full-throated support for a would-be fascist once again gaslight everyone else.

The following statements or some variant will be said:

1. I was never really a big supporter (yes you were)

2. It was never really that bad (yes it was)

3. He did all these things (he accomplished exactly zero while in office)

Truth and reconciliation demands truth first.

DickD

Trump faces many legal charges and is likely to be a jail bird by 2024. Get off your pedestal, Jim.

Dwasserba

He'll be starting his rallies the first minute fundraising permits to run for office 2024. I fear the years between it will feel like he never left. Can our legal system move FAST enough. Get this DONE

NewMarketParent

@Dwasserba

We can call the rallies "Coronapoloosa".

public-redux

Just to be clear: Prior to election night, you wanted four more years of Trump? It was his comments only that night that changed your mind about him? Even though he didn’t say anything that night that he hadn’t said before.

NewMarketParent

@public-redux

He was for it until he was against it. And once he was against it, he was never for it.

public-redux

jsk's style is more Courtier's Reply than 1984.

PurplePickles aka L&M

@JSK

So you pulled your head out (of you know where) on election night and at that point after hearing the orange one speak you went yikes not four more years? Am I understanding your thought process correctly?

You do understand you are a tad on the loony side right? We all see it I just want to make sure you are too.

NewMarketParent

@PurplePickles

And mind you, this was most likely after he had voted to put his guy in charge for 4 more years.

JSK - You leaned into it. There is no turning back now.

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