Pride started to create a safe space for those who felt they had to hide who they are, and to recognize those who had been persecuted for their sexual orientation or gender expression. We have developed into a loud and proud community, so accept ALL of us or none at all. It’s simple:

If you don’t support transgender people, you shouldn’t be at Pride.

If you’re a “no fats, no fems, no blacks, no Asians” gay, you shouldn’t be at Pride.

If you’re misogynistic, chauvinistic, racist, classist, or if you believe some people are inherently better based on their genetics, you shouldn’t be at Pride.

If you AIDS/HIV shame, you shouldn’t be at Pride.

If you support candidates for office who are anti-LGBTQ+, or who support legislation that will treat us differently based on whom we love or how we express our gender, you shouldn’t be at Pride.

If you’re a woman just looking to have fun with “the gays” but are silent on our issues, you shouldn’t be at Pride.

If you’re a gay male that dislikes lesbians, you shouldn’t be at Pride.

Yes, Pride is about acceptance, equality and inclusivity — but people who don’t recognize our lives as valuable or who treat members of our community as inferior or shameful should not be at Pride.

It’s not hard to accept and love people who are different. It takes far more energy to hate than it does to love. It costs nothing to be a decent human being; it’s literally free.

And if you’re ready to celebrate love in all its forms and expressions, to treat everyone as though we are all just different colors in the same human rainbow, then I hope to see you at Frederick’s eighth annual Pride Celebration on June 22. It’s also free.

Christopher Hashemzadeh

Frederick

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Business Owner

I don't hate people who don't share my views, I just disagree with them.

MD1756

The moderator apparently has an issue with the legitimate question of why polygamists are still outlawed. We've come to accept LGBTQ (at least many of us) but still outlaw polygamy. Why doesn't the LGBTQ community embrace polygamy too? Let's continue to be diverse and inclusive. To delete this comment again would suggest otherwise.

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gabrielshorn2013

I seem to be having the same problem with the moderator md1756. My comments certainly did not violate the terms of use for this forum.

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threecents

Rbt, There certainly is that aspect in the letter. Likewise, people like me are intolerant toward people who are intolerant. I guess that makes us intolerant towards those we disagree with. I accept that.

DickD

We go to upstate New York almost every year. There was one B & B, run by a gay couple. Jim worked for a company, Carmen ran the B & B. The B & B was always well kept and their breakfastwas terrific. The only reason we don't still go there is they sold the home. They were always good and decent.

jsklinelga

DickD You did not have to go to upstate NY. The Buckeystown Inn was run by a gay couple for years. For several years I did numerous contracting jobs for them plus we would have small functions there. The topic of sexual orientation never came up. The only time I felt slightly uneasy is when they converted a small, older church into a gathering place for their friends from DC. Putting that large 8 man red hot tub as the main focus and gathering point created some humorous conversations. They were friends and business clients..

Dwasserba

Uhhh sounds like fun

awteam2000

Christ is simply saying “if you are coming to hate don’t participate“.

tatt2ed

Wow. Really? So, by your analogy, can I assume you feel the same about... say, people who disagree with Trump should not attend his rallies? No protestors, no negative signs, no booming loudspeakers etc.? (for inclusiveness, lets go back 5 years and say the same about Obamas rallies). You're essentially stating that freedom of speech / expression ends where it disagrees with your views / lifestyle. Do you stay mum when officials try to suppress your chosen lifestyle? By the tone of your post, you should. I understand your desire to spend a day filled with fun and community, unencumbered by someone that may disagree with you, but it is a public space. Either engage those persons in the spirit of love and compassion, or walk away and enjoy yourself. I will not be attending, so I hope your day is pleasant.

awteam2000

Pride Day celebrates lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and (LGBTQ) social and self acceptance, pride. It’s not a political celebration. Gays and those that are supportive of the LGBTQ community are all welcomed, regardless whether you are a Trump supporter or Obama supporter. (LGBTQ) Trump supporters are encouraged to join in the celebration.

tatt2ed

True awe, but the commenter noted politics in the letter. And currently, political rallies, regardless of party, are a convenient example of large gatherings where people that often disagree, converge in the same space. If that space is a public area, dissenting views are bound to be present. I understand the desire to celebrate without those voices around, but our freedoms (yours, mine, the commenters) allow those voices to be present. The intention of the letter appears to be to quash those dissenting voices / opinions. As noted, I have no concern on this issue (pro or con), and I hope the attendees have a great time free of opinions they do not agree with.

awteam2000

Yes, you are right tatt2ed, politics was interjected into the letter. “If you support candidates for office who are anti-LGBTQ+, or who support legislation that will treat us differently based on whom we love or how we express our gender, you shouldn’t be at Pride.” It didn’t exclude those bringing love to the celebration only those bringing hate. You probably wouldn’t be a welcomed guest. Nor would you want to be. Right?

fnfn

Those that disagree with trump, should not attend his rallies; because they would be physically at risk. It is the same as when dubya bush had free speech zones away from him. In both cases, it shows that dubya and trump, were just bullies afraid of opposition. Obama handled his heclkers just like any qualified candidates do.

KR999

I went to a couple of Klan rallies 40 years ago, one in Frederick at the band shell and one in Thurmont at the municipal parking lot. I didn’t go because I believed in or agreed with their policies and rhetoric, and certainly not because I wanted to join them. I went solely as an observer, nothing else. And they never said people who disagreed with them were not welcome.

matthewboh

That's not what the letter said. Please go back an re-read it.

KR999

I stand corrected. They never said that people who disagreed with them “shouldn’t be” at their rallies.

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marinick1

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jsklinelga

Christopher, I remember the shocked look on my gay nephews face when I told him he should learn to be more tolerant. Your litany of who shouldn't be included in your celebration of inclusiveness reveals the same underlying anger, and yes hate, that still haunts my nephew to this day.

marinick1

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KR999

Well put, jsk. [thumbup]

shiftless88

jsk; all these people are asking for is some respite from the crap they get all the time. Is it too much to ask that people who disagree with them not state that at THEIR event? Do you invite your enemies to celebrate your birthday? Do you invite everyone? If not, does that make you intolerant and against inclusiveness?

MD1756

There is a difference between a public and private event. If he chooses to have a public birthday party, then anyone should have a right to peacefully protest his opinions at his birthday party.

jsklinelga

MD1756 I appreciate your response for me but I would not have responded. Shiftless assumes the pride marchers are my enemies. i believe she is projecting her own feelings that I am their enemy. Anti-hate and inclusiveness seem to be the wrong slogan for the gathering.

threecents

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fnfn

Actually, we are only free to petition our governments. A protest is about our freedom of speech; which these days included money so the rich can scream at us with their media.

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DickD

You might invite others to go too. .We could sing happy birthday to Jim.

Business Owner

I went to the Promise Keepers event in D.C. in 1997. Several gay and lesbian groups were there to protest and they were loud (whistles, horns, etc.) and proud (most of lesbians were topless). As much as I didn't appreciate their message, I never thought they shouldn't have a right to express themselves -- we all were on public property. Your missive proves that your "tolerance" only extends to the views that you agree with -- your intolerance of other opinions is pretty obvious.

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